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	<description>A Half Orphan&#039;s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism * * * Promoting Adoption Reform Since 1974</description>
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		<title>What I&#8217;m Doing This Summer</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/07/13/what-im-doing-this-summer-2/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Jul 2010 15:17:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Nursing homes, hospitals, funerals and memorials, declining health, recovery, inevitable death, fear of the unknown, fear of death, sadness, grief, reconciliation, savor the moments, overwhelming contradictory feelings, and simple joys &#8212; these are my summer activities. This is a time of daily struggle for family and friends. We&#8217;re aging. Our parents are dying. Our spouses are [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Email from Lola &#8211; An Adoptive Parent Repulsed by This Blog!</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/01/16/email-from-lola-an-adoptive-parent-repulsed-by-this-blog/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 16 Jan 2010 18:14:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Lola writes: I would be ashamed to post the awful things you have on your blog.  I hope you get flamed constantly!  There are orphans in this world that need homes.  Why don’t you adopt some and stop whining?!  Learn what it’s like from the other side as an adoptive parent!  You make me sick!  [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Happy Adoption Day 53 Years Ago Today</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/01/14/happy-adoption-day-53-years-ago-today/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2010 21:00:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Happy Adoption Day, my eyeball. The only ones happy were my adoptive parents. Fifty three years ago, today, at age 1 year, I lost my legal right to be a part of the family I was born into. I lost my legal right to have the birth certificate that documents my birth. I won the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Search Info As Requested &#8211; Guest Post</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/01/11/search-info-as-requested-guest-post/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/01/11/search-info-as-requested-guest-post/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:44:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Well, maybe I should start a Guest Post Regular Feature! The following came in via email. I normally don&#8217;t do Search Info because there is so much out there and my passions are Reunions and Civil Rights for adoptees and our natural parents, but this is important to post: Thank you to Archie Hyde for [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Poll Started by Mara &#8211; Should Kids Given Up for Adoption Have Their Rights Defended in Court?</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/01/07/poll-started-by/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/01/07/poll-started-by/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 07 Jan 2010 06:48:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[WOW! Best Birthday Present EVER! Thanks, Mara! First, take the poll: Should Kids Given Up For Adoption Have Their Rights Defended in Court? (CASA) Then, leave a comment. I was the first to do so on my BIRTHDAY, thanks to Mara! Here’s my answer: YES!!! And my Comments, spelling mistakes and all: If my rights [...]]]></description>
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