Comments for Forbidden Family http://forbiddenfamily.net I'm a legitimate half orphan bastardized by adoption ... Promoting Adoption Reform Since 1974 Sun, 18 Mar 2012 22:12:14 -0400 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on An open letter to APs, PAPs, and anyone who has even considered adoption by legitimatebastard http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/12/08/an-open-letter-to-aps-paps-and-anyone-who-has-even-considered-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1656 legitimatebastard Sun, 18 Mar 2012 22:12:14 +0000 http://forbiddenfamily.net/?p=2841#comment-1656 Hi Lucy, Thank you for your kind words. Since i did not write this letter, I have sent a message to the writer on your behalf, with your contact information. I, too, appreciate the letter writer's words. I hope she agreees to allow you to use this in a documentary on adoption. Your project seems like a worthwhile one. I wish you luck and do keep me posted on your progress. All the best, Joan Hi Lucy,

Thank you for your kind words. Since i did not write this letter, I have sent a message to the writer on your behalf, with your contact information.

I, too, appreciate the letter writer’s words. I hope she agreees to allow you to use this in a documentary on adoption. Your project seems like a worthwhile one. I wish you luck and do keep me posted on your progress.

All the best,

Joan

]]> Comment on An open letter to APs, PAPs, and anyone who has even considered adoption by Lucy Sheen http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/12/08/an-open-letter-to-aps-paps-and-anyone-who-has-even-considered-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1655 Lucy Sheen Sat, 17 Mar 2012 06:18:33 +0000 http://forbiddenfamily.net/?p=2841#comment-1655 Hi, I am an adoptee myself and found this letter so moving, in fact so compelling that I would like to seek permission to include a spoken version of this letter in the independent documentary film that I am making about transracial adoption and identity. I am self funding by pleading with, asking people for favours and much good will but am determined to make this documentary. I think this is one of the most clearly expressed, and moving pieces on adoption that I have had the fortune to read. Please contact me Thank you Lucy Sheen Hi,
I am an adoptee myself and found this letter so moving, in fact so compelling that I would like to seek permission to include a spoken version of this letter in the independent documentary film that I am making about transracial adoption and identity. I am self funding by pleading with, asking people for favours and much good will but am determined to make this documentary.

I think this is one of the most clearly expressed, and moving pieces on adoption that I have had the fortune to read.

Please contact me

Thank you

Lucy Sheen

]]> Comment on Adoptees’ Birth Certificates by Sara http://forbiddenfamily.net/adoptees-birth-certificates/comment-page-1/#comment-1623 Sara Tue, 20 Dec 2011 03:42:33 +0000 http://jmwdms.startlogic.com/wordpress/?page_id=312#comment-1623 Hello! How did you get your hands on your original birth certificate? My real sister was adopted... and her adopted mother told her that her original birth certificate was destroyed. Hello! How did you get your hands on your original birth certificate? My real sister was adopted… and her adopted mother told her that her original birth certificate was destroyed.

]]> Comment on California’s Relative CareGiver Law Recognizes Guardianship Over Adoption by Non Family Members by Marlene http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/02/02/californias-relative-caregiver-law-recognizes-guardianship-over-adoption-by-non-family-members/comment-page-1/#comment-1481 Marlene Fri, 25 Nov 2011 14:01:23 +0000 http://forbiddenfamily.com/?p=1216#comment-1481 I live in Napa, CA. Relative's being denied consideration for placement is common practice here. YOu are told it's out of thier hands , nothing they can do. The more you know about your rights and demand that they reconize your rights, they seem to get bent out of shape. CPS raves about how Collen Clark is one the best public defenders in Napa in family court. Maybe for them cause they usually win when up against her. Her clients are yelled at if they seek any advice from anyone other than the people the court has set up for them. Which are the parent advicate from Parents Can, her self, CPS Social Workers & thier attorney, and the judge. She tells them the case is confidential and they are not to discuss it or show anyone thier court papers, not even thier own mother! She is representing a client right now that can hardly read and is struggling with uderstanting her court papers. So she gave her attorney a release of information for her daughter to know everything and recieve paperwork so she could help her mom Understand it. The daughter was looking at the paperwork with her mom in the court lobby before court. Colleen Clark saw her, and yelled at her in front of everyone else in the court house lobby about how they were confidential and she was not allowed to look at them. I'm a little confussed about their confidential policie. If they are so concerned with confidentiality, then why is it that every parent CPS takes to court, they have been given a white 3 ring binder that is labeled on the front cover to keep thier paperwork in order. THey are instructed to not forget to bring it to court with them every time to show they are prepared. Everyone not there for Family COurt knows exactly why the people with the white 3 ring binders are there cause it say's so on the front of it. That doesn't seem v ery confidential to me? Her clients daughter has let it be known she is wanting to adopte her brother form day one when he was 4days old. It has been five moths now and she only gets to visit with him once a month for 2 hours. They havn't even mentioned her in court or the court paper work of her intrest to adopte. The foster mother told her after her visit with her brother, that she didn't need to buy him any Christmas presents cause she already bought him some and he would be at her house for christmas any ways. What can a person do when they are being railroaded by CPS and your rights are being ignored by everyone including your own attorney? What should the Daughter do so the courts know that she is an interested party to adopt? I live in Napa, CA. Relative’s being denied consideration for placement is common practice here. YOu are told it’s out of thier hands , nothing they can do. The more you know about your rights and demand that they reconize your rights, they seem to get bent out of shape. CPS raves about how Collen Clark is one the best public defenders in Napa in family court. Maybe for them cause they usually win when up against her. Her clients are yelled at if they seek any advice from anyone other than the people the court has set up for them. Which are the parent advicate from Parents Can, her self, CPS Social Workers & thier attorney, and the judge. She tells them the case is confidential and they are not to discuss it or show anyone thier court papers, not even thier own mother! She is representing a client right now that can hardly read and is struggling with uderstanting her court papers. So she gave her attorney a release of information for her daughter to know everything and recieve paperwork so she could help her mom Understand it. The daughter was looking at the paperwork with her mom in the court lobby before court. Colleen Clark saw her, and yelled at her in front of everyone else in the court house lobby about how they were confidential and she was not allowed to look at them. I’m a little confussed about their confidential policie. If they are so concerned with confidentiality, then why is it that every parent CPS takes to court, they have been given a white 3 ring binder that is labeled on the front cover to keep thier paperwork in order. THey are instructed to not forget to bring it to court with them every time to show they are prepared. Everyone not there for Family COurt knows exactly why the people with the white 3 ring binders are there cause it say’s so on the front of it. That doesn’t seem v ery confidential to me? Her clients daughter has let it be known she is wanting to adopte her brother form day one when he was 4days old. It has been five moths now and she only gets to visit with him once a month for 2 hours. They havn’t even mentioned her in court or the court paper work of her intrest to adopte. The foster mother told her after her visit with her brother, that she didn’t need to buy him any Christmas presents cause she already bought him some and he would be at her house for christmas any ways.

What can a person do when they are being railroaded by CPS and your rights are being ignored by everyone including your own attorney? What should the Daughter do so the courts know that she is an interested party to adopt?

]]> Comment on My Baby Bracelet Found Again by Joan M Wheeler http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/06/28/my-baby-bracelet-found-again/comment-page-1/#comment-1408 Joan M Wheeler Wed, 19 Oct 2011 13:43:47 +0000 http://forbiddenfamily.net/?p=2827#comment-1408 Thank you, Katherine. I think my Mom held onto things from my original family and did not know how to tell me she had them. In the few years before she died, Mom expressed to me that she wanted to give me photos of my natural mother but she held onto them instead of giving them to me. Inside her Cedar Chest, I found the baby clothes my natural father had given to my adopting parents when he relinquished me to them. Thank you, Katherine. I think my Mom held onto things from my original family and did not know how to tell me she had them. In the few years before she died, Mom expressed to me that she wanted to give me photos of my natural mother but she held onto them instead of giving them to me. Inside her Cedar Chest, I found the baby clothes my natural father had given to my adopting parents when he relinquished me to them.

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