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	<title>Forbidden Family &#187; Adoption Trauma</title>
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		<title>An open letter to APs, PAPs, and anyone who has even considered adoption</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/12/08/an-open-letter-to-aps-paps-and-anyone-who-has-even-considered-adoption/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:21:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adopted people are not gifts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptee's search has nothing to do with adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptees]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees are expected to always be careful not to "hurt" their adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees are expected to be grateful]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees have problems trusting others and forming relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' birthdays are not a cause for celebration]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' birthdays mark the day we were physically separated from our mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption is a thing to mourn]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption is not a cure for infertility]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[all adoptees have two sets of real parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being adopted hurts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being adopted is cause for great sadness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[don't EVER use the horribly offensive and insensitive term "Gotcha Day”]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[educate yourself]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expected to be grateful]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family preservation should always be the goal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fear of rejection and abandonment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[help your adoptee to heal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[openness and honesty in adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[PAP's Pre-Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pre-adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ramifications of adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tell the truth to your adoptee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Would YOU have liked it if your mother gave you away?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[you could have been aborted]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[you could have been thrown in a dumpster]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The following was written by an anonymous adult adoptee who has given permission for this letter to be posted here.    (What you are about to read may shock you.  It may challenge you.  And, hopefully, it may inspire you to educate yourself further on the realities of adoption. Please read the following with an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Truth in Adoption: My Adoptive Mother Threw My Birth Certificates, Baptismal Certificates, and Final Order of Adoption on the Table</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/02/truth-in-adoption-my-adoptive-mother-threw-my-birth-certificates-baptismal-certificates-and-final-order-of-adoption-on-the-table/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Nov 2010 14:56:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee Birth Certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptee False Baptismal Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptee False Legal Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptee True Sealed Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Amended Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Original Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptee as caged pet]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptee being scorned by adoptive mother for the truth of her birth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[emotional scars from being deliberately lied to]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Final Order of Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[original birth certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[safety deposit box]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[secrets and lies in adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[truth in adoption]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I did not see my birth certificate for the first 18 years of my life. I found this out when I was 18. A few days after being found by siblings my adoptive parents did not want me to know, my adoptive mother retrieved a large manila envelope from a bank’s safety deposit box. Mom [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Truth in Adoption: I Was the Skeleton in the Closet</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/01/truth-in-adoption-i-was-the-skeleton-in-the-closet/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/01/truth-in-adoption-i-was-the-skeleton-in-the-closet/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Nov 2010 22:27:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents and lies]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents hiding the truth about my blood siblings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents' god children]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[don't live in the past]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[excuses used by adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[get over it]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[it is over and done with]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[it's the way it was done]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[let it be]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[National Adoption Awareness Month]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[skeletons in the closet]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[stories told about adoptee's birth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[things are different now]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[who are my god parents?]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[For the duration of my childhood, I was raised with the belief that my birth was “the skeleton in the closet” and that I was to never ask about it. I was simply told two different stories during my childhood. The stories were never discussed, just stated. The first story was told to me when [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Video Response to Apology of Western Australia to Unmarried Mothers by Origins Inc</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/09/10/video-response-to-apology-of-western-australia-to-unmarried-mothers-by-origins-inc/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/09/10/video-response-to-apology-of-western-australia-to-unmarried-mothers-by-origins-inc/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Sep 2010 18:05:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Children's Human Rights]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[excuses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[human rights]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[LizzyBrew]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mothers unlawfully separated at birth from their offspring]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mothers' human rights]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Origins Inc]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[umarried mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Western Australia State Government]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Video Response of Origins Inc to Apology of Western Australia to Unmarried Mothers.mov &#8220;Official response of Origins Inc to the upcoming apology of the Western Australian State government to mothers unlawfully separated at birth from their offspring. The WA apology flagrantly excuses serious breaches of the Common law and human rights covenants and is not [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Adoptee Psychology, Genetics, the Unnatural Act of Adopting and Questions for Adoptive Parents</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/08/26/adoptee-psychology-genetics-the-unnatural-act-of-adopting-and-questions-for-adoptive-parents/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/08/26/adoptee-psychology-genetics-the-unnatural-act-of-adopting-and-questions-for-adoptive-parents/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Aug 2010 02:18:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee Birth Certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Preservation]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Race and Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adopted adult]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adopted child]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption abuse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption is wonderful thing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anti adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Betty Jean Lifton]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dr. David Brodzinsky]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[falsified birth certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Guardianship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Intercountry Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[John Greene]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kinship care]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Nancy Verrier]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[National Council For Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[nature vs nurture]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[NCFA]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[NPR]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pre-adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Scott Simon]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sealed birth certificate]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Today’s post was inspired by a blog post I read this morning and by an occurrence at a dinner party. Since I’m not feeling particularly “put together” at the moment, this post may be choppy and disjointed. I’d like to direct my readers to Rhode Island adoptee John Greene’s blog post titled “Adoption and The [...]]]></description>
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