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	<title>Forbidden Family &#187; Adoptee&#8217;s Conflicting Emotions</title>
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		<title>An open letter to APs, PAPs, and anyone who has even considered adoption</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/12/08/an-open-letter-to-aps-paps-and-anyone-who-has-even-considered-adoption/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:21:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adopted people are not gifts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptee's search has nothing to do with adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptees]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees are expected to always be careful not to "hurt" their adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees are expected to be grateful]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees have problems trusting others and forming relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' birthdays are not a cause for celebration]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' birthdays mark the day we were physically separated from our mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption is a thing to mourn]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption is not a cure for infertility]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[all adoptees have two sets of real parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being adopted hurts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being adopted is cause for great sadness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[don't EVER use the horribly offensive and insensitive term "Gotcha Day”]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[educate yourself]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expected to be grateful]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family preservation should always be the goal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fear of rejection and abandonment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[help your adoptee to heal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[openness and honesty in adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[PAP's Pre-Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pre-adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ramifications of adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tell the truth to your adoptee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Would YOU have liked it if your mother gave you away?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[you could have been aborted]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[you could have been thrown in a dumpster]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The following was written by an anonymous adult adoptee who has given permission for this letter to be posted here.    (What you are about to read may shock you.  It may challenge you.  And, hopefully, it may inspire you to educate yourself further on the realities of adoption. Please read the following with an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Truth in Adoption: I Was the Skeleton in the Closet</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/01/truth-in-adoption-i-was-the-skeleton-in-the-closet/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/01/truth-in-adoption-i-was-the-skeleton-in-the-closet/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Nov 2010 22:27:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents and lies]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents hiding the truth about my blood siblings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents' god children]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[don't live in the past]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[excuses used by adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[get over it]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[it is over and done with]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[it's the way it was done]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[let it be]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[National Adoption Awareness Month]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[skeletons in the closet]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[stories told about adoptee's birth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[things are different now]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[who are my god parents?]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[For the duration of my childhood, I was raised with the belief that my birth was “the skeleton in the closet” and that I was to never ask about it. I was simply told two different stories during my childhood. The stories were never discussed, just stated. The first story was told to me when [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Adoptee Psychology, Genetics, the Unnatural Act of Adopting and Questions for Adoptive Parents</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/08/26/adoptee-psychology-genetics-the-unnatural-act-of-adopting-and-questions-for-adoptive-parents/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/08/26/adoptee-psychology-genetics-the-unnatural-act-of-adopting-and-questions-for-adoptive-parents/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Aug 2010 02:18:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee Birth Certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Preservation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[International Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Race and Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adopted adult]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adopted child]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption abuse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption is wonderful thing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anti adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Betty Jean Lifton]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dr. David Brodzinsky]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[falsified birth certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Guardianship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Intercountry Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[John Greene]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[kinship care]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Nancy Verrier]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[National Council For Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[nature vs nurture]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[NCFA]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[NPR]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pre-adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Scott Simon]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sealed birth certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[unnatural]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Today’s post was inspired by a blog post I read this morning and by an occurrence at a dinner party. Since I’m not feeling particularly “put together” at the moment, this post may be choppy and disjointed. I’d like to direct my readers to Rhode Island adoptee John Greene’s blog post titled “Adoption and The [...]]]></description>
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		<title>My Earliest Letters to the Editor and First Newspaper Interview: 1975 at age 19</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/08/24/my-earliest-letters-to-the-editor-and-first-newspaper-interview-1975-at-age-19/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/08/24/my-earliest-letters-to-the-editor-and-first-newspaper-interview-1975-at-age-19/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Aug 2010 17:32:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee Birth Certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Amended Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[False Information on Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Original Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptee found by natural family]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptees Liberty Movement Association]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption reform movement]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ALMA]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[birth certificates for adoptees]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Council on Adoptable Children]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[emotional trauma of adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Florence Fisher]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Forbidden Family]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[National Council For Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[NCFA]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[The Search For Anna Fisher]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[The Stranger Who looks Like Me]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Today&#8217;s post will be a look back at my very earliest Letters to the Editor and very first newspaper interview, both taking place in late 1975 when I was a college student and only 19 years old. The newspaper interview came first. It came about because I had started a local chapter of ALMA &#8211; [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Re-Post: NCFA&#8217;s Stay At Home Gala 2009</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/08/20/re-post-ncfas-stay-at-home-gala-2009/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/08/20/re-post-ncfas-stay-at-home-gala-2009/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Aug 2010 21:23:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Preservation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption memories]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anti adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Chuck Johnson]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[National Council For Adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[NCFA]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[stay at home gala invitation 2009]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[As promised, here are the links to my re-posts on NCFA and their blunders: Response to NCFA’s “Mutual Consent: Balancing the Birthparent’s Right to Privacy with the Adopted Person’s Desire to Know” – Re-Post and Re-Post of Last Year’s Commemoration: Commentary on article “Anti-Adoption Advocates: How Should We Respond?”  For added pizzazz in light of [...]]]></description>
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