The Savior mentality of the Christians who descend on orphanages really does need to be challenged. Your story is one more validation that “saving” a child from a life of poverty and placing that child in the hands of strangers, is a violation of that child’s right to self and family and familiar surroundings. Help the poeverty situation improve, give people the opportunity to build up, but ot remove children from poverty is to leave permanent scars for life.

Thank you for sharing, kimette.

Love your Bar Code!

I will continue to defend the rights of Half Orphans and Full Orphans. The loss of oone or both of our parents should not be downplayed by others who claim to know what’s “best” for us.

The adoption industry took me of from a loving family to put me in an abusive family.
But, all they want the world to know it that they saved me of poverty

I once was a 10 year-old child living in an orphange. I was happy living at the orphanage; I had food, cloths,many friends to play with. But I still wanted MY dad, not another dad. (I didn’t want a mom, I knew my mom was in heaven). My dad was very poor, but it’s still with him that I wanted to live with, and I was hoping to be reunited with him. As a second option, I would have like stay at the orphanage with frequent visits from my dad.
Some people decided I would be better off with another set of parents, in another country. Bein with a new set of rich parents didn’t make me happy. I missed badly the orphanage and my family. I wanted to go back to MY home, which was where I came from.
I learned that 3-4 years after I was adopted, the orphange was closed down and all the remaining “orphans” returned to their parents. That is exacly what I wished.

You probably think of asking the question to a 10 year-old child living in an awful orphanage.
I have lived in such orphange prior to the orphanage where I was well cared. I would have probably answered I wanted to be adopted, but what I wanted the most was my dad and siblings. I didn’t want another dad, I didn’t want another family.

Adoption tore my real family apart; and the society wants me to be grateful for being adopted.

What saddens me most is that, for the now 36 years since my shocking reunion at age 18 and my involvement with the Adoption Reform Movement, is that there has been very little change in pre-adoptive and adoptive parent attitudes. Attitudes of adoptive parents in the 1970s was “gimmie, gimmie, gimmie” and “mine, all mine”. And their attitude to me has always been “you ungrateful little bitch!” Nothing has changed.

I am not grateful to have been taken from my existing family! That is kidnapping santioned by a signed piecce of paper because my father was tricked into signing relinquishment papers! Then, all the adults around me colluded to keep me away from my own blood kin, all the while, keeping my father out of thier secret deals to communicate around the sealed adoption in which my father was told to stay away! No one else abided by the law but him!!!

Listen, Lola, with your ChinaSweetiePie: adoptees do not like what you self-righeous child-steallers do. We are people with feelings. If you cared enough about the feelings of your little China Doll you would make China a better place to live for all Chineses people. You would fight the injustices there. Your Little ChinaSweetiePie will grow up devoid of her own people and culture and language because all of the adults around her conspired against her best interests to her family, her name, and her country. THOSE are values and rights stated by the United Nations Rights of the Child, of which, you have violated by adopting a child out of her own country.

What’s your China Doll’s real name? Where’s her real birth certificate? Do you have an Adoption Certificate that correctly documents that you adopted her? Or, do you have a “new” (fraudulent) birth certificate that states YOU gave birth to a CHINESE girl in America? THAT is morally, ethically, and inhmanly wrong! YOU should be ashamed of yourself! Go on, LOOK at that “new” birth certificate that the government gave you! I know it states you gave birth to that Chinese girl. SHAME ON YOU!!!

SHAME ON THE GOV FOR ALLOWING THIS FARUD TO CONTINUE!!!